Why am I still here?

I’ve been living in Japan for three and a half years now, and sometimes I catch myself thinking, Why am I still here? What am I looking for? What am I doing with my life? But I never have to think very long for my questions to be answered. Here are some of my current reasons for staying in Japan:

1. OMOTENASHI–Customer service

My mom always told me that I should never settle for anyone who doesn’t treat me like a princess. She was obviously talking about relationships, but it definitely applies to customer service as well. In America, they say “the customer is always right,” but in Japan, “the customer is god.”

I went to a department store last week a few minutes before they opened, and a staff member came out in her fancy uniform to unlock the doors and great everyone waiting. She said they’d be opening soon and apologized for making us wait. At exactly 10:00AM, she came back with three other fancily-dressed staff members, who all bowed deeply towards the crowd and energetically said “Good morning and welcome. Please come in!” They opened the doors so politely and personally greeted everyone entering. Then, as I passed each vendor in the basement to get to the vegan bento shop, I noticed literally everyone bowing and saying “Good morning and welcome!” This happens everywhere, but this was the first time I’d been to a department store right as they were opening. There weren’t many people buying things yet, so the staff had plenty of time to greet and bow. The amazing customer service and attention to detail was so much more visible because I was early.

Granted, this was a high end department store, but most places in Japan are like this. Makeup counter staff are super flattering and helpful, restaurant staff almost never get anything wrong, and even fast food workers are super nice. It may all be fake, but it works on me. I think clothing and beauty store staff have single-handed scooped me out of my shy, introverted past and brought me into this new world where I like talking to people. I’m treated like a princess all the time, and it’s really changed me. Bravo, Japan. BRAVO.

2. Health Consciousness

Minus Japan’s annoying disregard for the dangers of cigarette smoke (it is legal to smoke almost everywhere here for some VERY STRANGE AND ILLOGICAL REASON), Japan is a pretty healthy place. Kids learn nutrition from a young age, and their school lunches are carefully thought out and prepared fresh. Because of this, people recognize that certain foods shouldn’t be consumed all the time. It should be easy, but America still has a hard problem differentiating healthy from cancerous so apparently it isn’t. I will say that there is a lot of pressure here to be thin and thus many people take it too far and end up with eating disorders, but that happens literally everywhere. Overall, Japan has quite a few healthy restaurants and a generally good grasp on nutrition.

Also, veganism hasn’t really caught on where I live, so there aren’t a lot of vegan junk foods for me to be tempted by. I literally have to make my own food for almost every meal, and I eat pretty clean. It’s not hard for me to be healthy here at all. AND if you read my last post, you know that health care is super cheap as well. Win-win.

3. Safety

Bad things happen in Japan. I know this. Yet I feel very safe walking home at night from the station. With headphones in. Occasionally holding bags of groceries. I have had a few encounters with suspected stalkers, but the experience never lasts more than a few minutes. In America, walking around alone in the middle of the day could gain you a lot of unsolicited advances. Old guys in cars used to always try to pick me up when I was in college. Now I don’t have to worry about that nearly as much.

I know I should be careful, and I am, but I feel like Japan does have a more peaceful, safe atmosphere. There aren’t usually large men around the corner waiting to rob you at gunpoint. Even Osaka, Japan’s most dangerous city, feels much safer than the average American city. This has allowed me to feel more comfortable going places alone and just doing what I need to do to live.

4. Public Transportation/Proximity to City Center

I love driving and belting my favorite songs just as much as the next person. I don’t, however, love driving with a purpose. Having to drive to work or the doctor or the mall is stressful. What if there’s traffic and I’m late? Where do I park? Also, gas prices are ridiculous in Japan, and car maintenance is even worse. If I had a personal chauffeur I’d have no problem, but unfortunately I am neither rich nor important enough for one of those. I was made to live in a place with good public transportation. Japan is that place. Between trains, subways, buses, and taxis you can get anywhere you need to without having to drive yourself. It’s lifesaving.

Japan is also really small and densely populated, so everything is centrally located in cities. If you live even somewhat close to a city, you can get there pretty easily and find anything you may need. Texas is a vast land full of cows and long, winding highways. Everything good is a least two hours away. At this point in my life, I’d take Japan over that any day.

5. Fashion

America has its pockets of good fashion. The problem is that they’re all so far away from each other and only so many people even care about fashion, that it was never really that exciting for me. I had to rely mostly on fashion blogs and runway videos to get any kind of style inspiration. Now, I just have to walk outside. Japanese people just seem to care more in general about their outward appearances. That, or I just find standard Japanese style to be more appealing than its American counterpart. Either way, Japan is full of beautiful, fashionable eye candy. People-watching here is like watching NY Fashion Week and not a train wreck like it is in America. Seriously, even if Japan had Walmart, People of Walmart would not exist. I am so so grateful for that.

Recently I’ve been seeing more and more stylish old ladies wearing very odd but amazing clothes, and I can’t wait to grow up and be one of them. Maybe Japanese people have more money to spend on nice clothes because housing tends to be cheaper, or maybe the need to fit in just forces people to look nice because of peer pressure…either way, I enjoy going out and seeing what everyone else is wearing.

Disclaimer: I am not trying to be vain or judgmental; I simply really care about personal style and think fashion is the perfect way to tell people about yourself without having to say anything.

6. I’m having fun

Quite simply, I don’t feel the need to leave because I’m having so much fun. I love my job and getting to meet so many amazing bilingual children and their families. I love teaching English as a foreign language. I love teaching Japanese people about America and what I know about the rest of the world. I love being an outsider because there are so few expectations of me, and I like proving people wrong. I love learning and living the Japanese language. I love it all. Everyday is an adventure here even after three years, and I hope that feeling never stops. Then I’ll just have to move again.

 

In conclusion, there are a lot of really good reasons I choose to stay in Japan. I still don’t know how long I’ll be here, but for now I am enjoying life and finding happiness. That alone is reason enough to stay.

 

Check out my instagram for current pictures of my adventures (which admittedly haven’t been so amazing lately, but that’ll change soon)! See you soon.

Grow up

This post will have little to do with Japan. Or everything to do with Japan. I didn’t draft it, so we’ll see how it goes.

Today I deactivated my Facebook account. Recently, I’ve just been feeling very off, very incomplete. I don’t know what happened or why, but somewhere in the last month or so, I’ve forgotten what’s good about me. I think everyone deals with this at some point, and it’s never fun. But I wanted to somewhat explain myself to anyone who wants to listen.

I know I haven’t always been a good friend, the perfect daughter, or an understanding girlfriend. I know I get selfish and mean, but most of the time it’s because I’m so anxious going through my daily life, that I don’t really know how to act. I know I’ve written about this before. Japan as made me realize how afraid I am of so many things. It really is a good thing though; I’ve grown so much since August 2012, and I really feel like I’m a better person now. I’m at least taking the steps necessary to become who I want to be, and I’ve really begun to see what and who are important to me. Life has such a rich meaning to me now, and I really do have Japan and all the people in it to thank for that.

Yesterday I went to work, but left around 3rd period because I had a massive stomachache and felt dizzy. I didn’t think I had a fever or a bug or anything, but I went home and slept for pretty much the rest of the day. I got up this morning and got ready as usual but once in my car, decided I should take it easy again today. The doctor didn’t seem to know what was causing my symptoms, but suggested I reexamine my diet and try to reduce the stressful things in my life. She basically told me that I’m making myself sick.

She could be right. Recently I’ve become so worried and scared for my future. There are things I want to do, of course, but which path is right for me I don’t know. I want to be strong and make my own decisions, but I feel like being human is never so easy. I have to think about a lot of people and factors. Thankfully, I have a wonderful mom and possibly the best friends in the entire world. Now more than ever, I wish I could see them and talk to them more often. But I know they are always there for me, and that feels great.

I think that I often forget to just sit back and breathe. I get so wrapped up in going to work and being the ideal coworker and teacher. I focus too much on other people’s lives. I worry too much about things I cannot control. All of that piles up into big mounds of stress and anxiety, and it needs to stop. I need to stop. So from now on, I’m making a pledge to myself. Don’t get your information from Facebook, Kori. Ask people in person/directly how they’re doing. Go out more. Go for a walk and take pictures of birds. Put that piano to better use and learn more. Learn more in general. Find out how to get certified to teach from Japan. Take a TESOL course online or something. Exercise more, because we both know you need it. Eat more vegetables and seriously stop eating meat. Why did you ever agree to eat meat again? Just be you. If other people are into that, great! Maybe you’ll make new or better friends. But don’t force anything. YOU deserve everything. No matter how often you cry, you are crazy strong, girl. Your friends and family believe in you, and so do I. Do your thing. That’s all that matters.

I just put my hand over my heart and said this out loud. Feels good. Why I ever let myself forget this is beyond me, but I think we’re good now. Thank you so so much to all of you who have been here. Being human is not always easy, but it isn’t supposed to be. I am happy. I will continue to be happy. Even on days when I don’t want to get out of bed, I will be happy, because life is seriously way too short to be anything but. Right?

read this quote recently at a restaurant

read this quote recently at a restaurant